The passage for the Narrative Lectionary reading is Matthew 18:15-35.

The Working Preacher commentary is here.

The (very helpful) Working Preacher NL podcast is here.

I was way behind the curve when I finally watched “Frozen”, the Disney/Pixar movie about two sisters and a lot of ice. It had been out nearly a year or more by the time I got around to watching it. As the animation played out and the snow piled high, I just kept thinking, “This movie is about fear.”

Fear itself is mentioned by several of the characters. The older daughter, Elsa, is taught “conceal, don’t feel.” She later sings, “There’s so much fear.” Another character alleges that he “was a victim of fear.” That’s a lot of a very heavy emotion for a movie with the theme song, “Let it Go.”

Perhaps that’s because the reality of “let it go” doesn’t actually change anything. Elsa can pitch her crown off the mountain, but she’s still the queen and she has not dealt with how her experiences and abilities affect her relationships with other people. “Letting go” is really just more concealing and not feeling.

I worry that “let it go” is the message people of faith often equate with forgiveness. People seem to be encouraged to let go of hurts, fears, and guilt. Let it go. Yet, like in the movie, that isn’t actually forgiveness. The realities of our experiences, our abilities, what we have done and had done to us are still real, still powerful, and still affecting our relationships with others and, perhaps, with God. “Let it go” is a great shower song, but it’s poor Christian practice.

Forgiveness is not just letting go, concealing in a false-fronted smile and trying to ignore the pain. Forgiveness is the reality of acknowledging wounds, debts, trespasses- gaping maws of pain in our past that shape the map of our future. These truths of our experiences have power and voice. Forgiveness means the desire to recognize the future is in God’s hands, instead of entrenched in and gripped by our past.

Those hearing the text this week may be overwhelmed by couldas, wouldas, and shouldas. They may remember serious pain caused to them and agonize over their inability to forgive. They may lament loved ones lost over the years to death of the relationship, well before the death of the body. People may think of others they know who can’t forgive or whom they believe should not be forgiven.

This is not the Sunday to sing “Let it Go.”

It is the Sunday to lift up the realities of God’s forgiveness- limitless and abounding, just and honed. God does not hold us to a standard of forgiveness. God, instead, sets the standard of forgiveness, which is not about returning again and again to get burned and spurned. It is about reshaping the covenants, the connections, and the community so that healing and wholeness are the inevitable results.

This is the goal of church discipline. This is what Peter needed to learn from Jesus. This is what the unforgiving servant couldn’t see.

Forgiveness is never “let it go.” It’s always “let it in”, “let it work”, and watch it grow.

5 thoughts on “Narrative Lectionary: Forgiveness, Fear, and Frozen

  1. Ha! I’m glad I’m in good company. I was brought to “Let It Go” today, too. Agreed that forgiveness can’t be about brushing passed, ignoring, etc. The “process” described for times of disagreement is anything but letting go (at least at the start) and all about getting closer together to work something out. Similarly in the parable holding onto debt, holding debt over someone, is imprisoning. But I also thought about the “loosing in heaven” part and the freeing that comes with having and being forgiven. Freedom to live into the covenants, as you say. I’m definitely playing around with all of this still very early.

    Like

  2. So good to read these thoughts… I am just starting out today – which feels very late in the week for me (it is) but, that’s what I get for flying home from Florida arriving back early Tuesday!

    A whole big THING has blown up in the community while I was away – and several church members have become embroiled on either side… leading to some hurtful, hasty words. So, this scripture is either fortuitous, or dangerous – or both.

    I need to be the neutral guiding force (need a course on conflict transformation?!) to allow folks to say their piece, and find a way forward… so that they can let it go… though I suspect it’s going to take a whole lot more than one sermon.

    Thanks for kicking off the thought process Julia

    Like

  3. That’s so interesting to read this here, because I was actually drawn to Let It Go because of the Greek. I didn’t mean to give myself the earworm, but it is apheimi, yes? Which is “Let it go.” And while I take your point that it’s not just letting things go, I think that’s a lot of it. But this is very good food for thought to throw in my Thursday brain!

    Like

    1. Interesting! I did not consider the Greek. Interesting to play with the difference between the biblical “let it go”, meaning to deal with it and release it and the contemporary understanding, which seems more along the lines of “just forget it”.

      Like

We hope you'll join the conversation!

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s