Ask The Matriarch: Some of our Beloved Books

This week’s question is about something we all know too well, but can never get enough of: Books! What’s on our bookshelves? you may wonder. Well, so did this RevGal: Dear Matriarchs, I have just returned from the RevGalBlogPals Big Event (B.E.11) in Dallas. In the course of her presentation, Enneagram master teacher Suzanne Stabile… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: On-going Care in our Congregations

Are you making congregational plans for 2018? Today’s question comes from a pastor who wonders about a particular kind of planning for congregational life: Dear Matriarchs: Do any of you have a standard pastoral care plan or practice you use for grieving families or others going through a situation with ongoing pastoral needs? We have… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: What is Your Question?

Seasons greetings, one and all! Our Matriarchs are taking a well-deserved break during this holiday week. The question today, therefore, comes to you, dear readers. As we enter a new year of ministry: What tough question would you like us to consider? What ministry topic can we start a conversation around? What do you anticipate… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: Influx of New Members from Another Congregation

This week’s question is about healthy assimilation of an influx of new members. The back-story of some of the new members presents a challenge. Perhaps there are several challenges. Read on: Dear Matriarchs:  Our church is the midst of unexpected and glorious growth. Attendance up 20% and giving up in equal proportion. Some of this… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: Church is My Life. (Is that so bad?)

This week’s question is an opportunity for honest reflection on the balance between loving our ministry life and finding/enjoying a life apart from the church. We also explore the benefits for the congregation and the pastor’s ministry when we do that work, and the consequences when we don’t. Dear Matriarchs, This may or may not… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: Whose House Is It, Anyway?

Sabbatical planning includes many things: when to go, what to do with the time, what will the congregation do while the pastor is away? But what about the “empty” parsonage? Here’s the scenario: Hello Friends – I am starting to plan for first and only (given my age and stage) sabbatical. Hurrah! My wife and… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: Help! They run the place!

What’s at the intersection of “things they don’t teach you in seminary” and “things you wish the search committee had told you”? This question! Dear Matriarchs, What if you had a small group of leaders who have ensconced themselves on one committee? They have controlled all church decisions for years, if not decades, and have… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: BFP Best Practices, Social Media Edition

This week’s Matriarch Mail brings us another BFP question. A Beloved Former Pastor, having ended (officially) serving a congregation through retirement or by accepting a call to a new congregation, continues to be a presence within and around the congregation or with some/most/all of their should-be-former congregants. A BFP continues to benevolently provide goodies without the… Read More