Ask the Matriarch: Help! They run the place!

What’s at the intersection of “things they don’t teach you in seminary” and “things you wish the search committee had told you”? This question! Dear Matriarchs, What if you had a small group of leaders who have ensconced themselves on one committee? They have controlled all church decisions for years, if not decades, and have… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: BFP Best Practices, Social Media Edition

This week’s Matriarch Mail brings us another BFP question. A Beloved Former Pastor, having ended (officially) serving a congregation through retirement or by accepting a call to a new congregation, continues to be a presence within and around the congregation or with some/most/all of their should-be-former congregants. A BFP continues to benevolently provide goodies without the… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: Advice to your Future BFP Self

  This week’s question is an All-Play! So, put on your fancy advice-giving hat and get ready to play along. This week’s question is born of all the painful pastor stories we have told and heard about the bad behavior of the Beloved Former Pastor — a.k.a., BFP.  Former pastors who don’t leave well —… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: Getting Support for Continuing Education

As pastors, we are admonished to keep learning after our formal theological education ends. Are we on our own to find the money and the time for our pastoral growth? This week’s question wonders how to get congregational support for attending continuing education events. Dear Matriarchs, There seem to be two kinds of pastors in… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: It’s Your Turn!

Today we offer up an “Ask the Matriarch” all-play! This week’s question goes out from our Matriarchs to all of you wise RevGals: Wherever or whatever your ministry might be, what is working well right now in your ministry context? Lift us up with some good news! We are anticipating many helpful and hopeful answers. Please… Read More