Ask the Matriarch: Pastoral Transition, Grief, and Soul Care

This week’s question is from a pastor in transition from her first call to her new congregation. In the midst of her excitement, she identifies another emotion. How might she address that in her own life and with her new congregation?  Dear Matriarchs- I have accepted a new call and I’m moving across states, time… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: Coffee Pot Hospitality

Today we gather around the church coffee pot and ponder with our RevGal colleague: What is the role of fresh brewed coffee in a congregation’s ministry! That is this week’s question: Dear Matriarchs: Here’s what’s going on where I am the pastor: We serve coffee at church. They bought fancy new coffee pots, more than… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: The Pastor’s Role as Supervisor

Let’s consider yet another pastoral professional skill set that likely wasn’t covered in our theological education. This week’s question comes from a Rev who is discovering the joys and challenges of staff supervision. Dear Matriarchs, I am an Episcopal priest about 6 months into my first call as the full-time priest in charge of a… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: How to Officiate a Cross-Cultural Family Wedding

This week’s question comes from a RevGal who is looking forward to a most joyous occasion: Dear Matriarchs, I have been asked to officiate a family wedding next year – a delight and an honor. The bride’s family is from Japan and there will be relatives in attendance who do not speak (or understand much)… Read More

Ask The Matriarch: How to “Retire” a Faithful Servant

Let’s take a moment to call to mind, with deep appreciation, the saints in our congregations who give their time and energy to our congregations’ ministries, sometimes for years. Especially beloved are those who selflessly serve the children and youth of the church. Can we talk about how to shift their role and honor their… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: When Clergywomen Make Friends (with each other)

To keep healthy boundaries with those in our congregations, we clergy have been admonished to “have friendships outside the church.” An important life component, to be sure, but adding “make some friends” may not make it into the clergy schedule this week, or next week either. Are there extra challenges for the single clergy woman… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: “Whose Side Are You On?”

Has this happened to you? You are rocking along in a congregation that is challenging enough and then something way unexpected happens. This week’s question asks what to do when what is going on outside the congregation shows up inside the congregation and involves parishioners on both sides of a conflict situation. I’m finding myself… Read More