Ask the Matriarch: BFP Best Practices, Social Media Edition

This week’s Matriarch Mail brings us another BFP question. A Beloved Former Pastor, having ended (officially) serving a congregation through retirement or by accepting a call to a new congregation, continues to be a presence within and around the congregation or with some/most/all of their should-be-former congregants. A BFP continues to benevolently provide goodies without the… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: Advice to your Future BFP Self

  This week’s question is an All-Play! So, put on your fancy advice-giving hat and get ready to play along. This week’s question is born of all the painful pastor stories we have told and heard about the bad behavior of the Beloved Former Pastor — a.k.a., BFP.  Former pastors who don’t leave well —… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: What’s Your Spiritual Practice?

Wouldn’t you know that this week’s post is coming to you a day late, on the week when the question is about how we are spiritually disciplined? Ahem. Moving on . . . Let’s consider the subject of spiritual disciplines and welcome potential for growth: Dear Matriarchs, I have enjoyed the recent RevGalBlogPals feature sharing… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: Getting Support for Continuing Education

As pastors, we are admonished to keep learning after our formal theological education ends. Are we on our own to find the money and the time for our pastoral growth? This week’s question wonders how to get congregational support for attending continuing education events. Dear Matriarchs, There seem to be two kinds of pastors in… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: Grumbling about the Part-Time Pastor

The number of part-time pastors and bi-vocational pastors is on the rise. This week’s question is from a RevGal who is leading her congregation as they make that shift. Hear her challenges: Dear Matriarchs, I serve as the congregation’s first part-time pastor because — you guessed it — the congregation can no longer afford a… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: Clergy Colleagues

This week’s question is from a Rev who has found online support for her ministry in the RevGalBlogPal community. Now, she is looking forward to relating to come colleagues in real life. Dear Matriarchs, In the first years of my ministry, I served a rural congregation with no nearby clergy colleagues. The RevGalBlogPals online community… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: The Pastor in a Civic Role

This week’s question is about civic involvement as part of the pastoral role. Dear Matriarchs~~ I have some questions about taking part in civic or community activities as part of one’s ministry.  Do you consider it part of your call to work at the local apple festival (or whatever)?  Do you get involved in local service… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: Telling My Congregation about a Health Crisis

Our question this week comes from a Rev whose health crisis brings her face-to-face with three things that we pastors would rather avoid in our congregations: taking time off to care for our health, revealing intimate details about our personal lives, and opening ourselves up to well-meaning comments and advice from parishioners. Today, our Matriarchs offer… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: The Single Pastor and Her New Relationship

Today’s question is born of a happy turn of events in the life of a RevGal. She has some questions about how her personal life might will affect her congregation. Dear Matriarchs I came to my current parish a few years ago as a single woman without any “significant other” or romantic relationship. Recently, I… Read More