Ask the Matriarch: Telling My Congregation about a Health Crisis

Our question this week comes from a Rev whose health crisis brings her face-to-face with three things that we pastors would rather avoid in our congregations: taking time off to care for our health, revealing intimate details about our personal lives, and opening ourselves up to well-meaning comments and advice from parishioners. Today, our Matriarchs offer… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: The Single Pastor and Her New Relationship

Today’s question is born of a happy turn of events in the life of a RevGal. She has some questions about how her personal life might will affect her congregation. Dear Matriarchs I came to my current parish a few years ago as a single woman without any “significant other” or romantic relationship. Recently, I… Read More

Ask The Matriarch: To Confront or Not to Confront?

Our Matriarch inbox brought us an interesting scenario from a Rev who has found out something through the grapevine that left her feeling angry and betrayed. Here’s her story: Dear Matriarchs, Our tiny church recently had our big annual supper which is attended by many community members who are not members of our church. The… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: Strategies for the Diverse Congregation

This week’s question is from a pastor who is looking for ways to respect diversity in her congregation: Dear Matriarchs, Our small congregation is becoming more and more diverse (hooray!). Diverse in different ways–racial background, sexual orientation, educational level, socieconomic status. My question is: how do we live into this diversity in faithful ways which… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: A Church Visitor With All the Answers

Isn’t congregational ministry the most fascinating bag of mixed blessings? This week’s question is about the joys and challenges of an energetic new friend who comes to church: Dear Matriarchs, I serve a small congregation, and we are desperate to grow. We’ve done some outreach, and we have a regular visitor, from exactly the demographics we… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: Beloved Former Pastor Remains in the Picture

Our question this week is from a RevGal who is dealing with her version of an all-too-familiar tale in RevGal world: the Beloved Former Pastor who has not made a gracious and supportive transition to being “former.” Here’s her story: Dear Matriarchs ~~ I began at this current church last spring, following a man who served… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: It’s Your Turn!

Today we offer up an “Ask the Matriarch” all-play! This week’s question goes out from our Matriarchs to all of you wise RevGals: Wherever or whatever your ministry might be, what is working well right now in your ministry context? Lift us up with some good news! We are anticipating many helpful and hopeful answers. Please… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: Relief from the Winter Blahs

This week’s question is comes from a RevGal stuck in the winter blahs. Can you relate to her cry for help? Dear Matriarchs: I have a long stretch ahead with no vacation or continuing education time, just my usual days off (Friday and part of Saturday). Normally I try to get away every 7-8 weeks… Read More

Ask the Matriarch: Creative Strategies for Leaving a Church

’Tis the season to look forward to a new year and new opportunities. This week’s question asks for creative pre-transition strategies when a pastor is making a change: Dear Matriarchs, I’m planning to leave my current call next year, and while I already know this, the congregation does not, and won’t for several more months. … Read More